Marriage & You Series
By Olubunmi (Queen) Olashore – Heartbeat of God Publications
Many have come to view marriage merely as a means to an end — a social requirement, a cultural expectation, or something to be preserved only for the sake of the children. But such thinking is a distortion of God’s original intent.
Marriage was never designed as a burden, nor as a trap to hold people hostage in unhappy circumstances. It is a covenant relationship, created by God Himself, to bring joy, purpose, and divine partnership between a man and a woman.
When God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18), He wasn’t simply creating companionship for emotional comfort — He was establishing a purposeful union. Marriage was meant to be a space where destiny and divine assignment meet agreement and support.
1. Marriage Solves Loneliness, Not Emptiness
Loneliness is not just the absence of people, but the absence of divine connection. God designed marriage to meet the need for companionship, understanding, and mutual strength. A spouse should not replace God in your heart, but should walk with you in the journey of faith, purpose, and growth.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9
2. Marriage Is for Complementation, Not Competition
True marriage is the joining of strengths, not a battle of wills. Each partner brings something unique to the table — vision, wisdom, grace, and gifts — and together they create a balance that reflects the fullness of God’s image.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3
A godly marriage is therefore not about domination or control, but about agreement and unity of purpose. When both partners are aligned with God’s plan, their union becomes a channel for divine expression and influence.
3. Marriage Is for Purpose Fulfilment
Marriage multiplies destiny. When two people unite under God’s leadership, their impact increases — in ministry, in business, in parenting, and in every area of life. It’s not just about raising children, but about raising generations that carry light, legacy, and kingdom purpose.
Staying in marriage only because of children limits God’s vision for the relationship. Children are a blessing, but marriage is first a covenant between two people and their Creator. When the union reflects Christ’s love, the children naturally grow in an atmosphere of stability, faith, and purpose.
4. Marriage Is a Reflection of Christ and the Church
The ultimate goal of marriage is to mirror the relationship between Christ and His Bride, the Church (Ephesians 5:25–32). It is a love built on sacrifice, understanding, forgiveness, and faithfulness. It thrives on commitment, not convenience; on purpose, not pressure.
When marriage is redefined by God’s standard, it ceases to be a struggle and becomes a garden of growth, where both individuals are refined, strengthened, and empowered for kingdom exploits.
In Summary:
Marriage is not just about staying together it’s about growing together.
It’s not about children alone — it’s about purpose and partnership.
It’s not about endurance, it’s about divine collaboration for destiny.
When God is at the center, marriage becomes a force that transforms lives and generations.
“ Marriage is not a prison of obligation but a covenant of divine purpose.”
By Olubunmi (Queen) Olashore – Heartbeat of God Publications
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