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Redefining Marriage

Marriage & You Series

By Olubunmi (Queen) Olashore – Heartbeat of God Publications

Many have come to view marriage merely as a means to an end — a social requirement, a cultural expectation, or something to be preserved only for the sake of the children. But such thinking is a distortion of God’s original intent.

Marriage was never designed as a burden, nor as a trap to hold people hostage in unhappy circumstances. It is a covenant relationship, created by God Himself, to bring joy, purpose, and divine partnership between a man and a woman.

When God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18), He wasn’t simply creating companionship for emotional comfort — He was establishing a purposeful union. Marriage was meant to be a space where destiny and divine assignment meet agreement and support.

1. Marriage Solves Loneliness, Not Emptiness

Loneliness is not just the absence of people, but the absence of divine connection. God designed marriage to meet the need for companionship, understanding, and mutual strength. A spouse should not replace God in your heart, but should walk with you in the journey of faith, purpose, and growth.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labour.” — Ecclesiastes 4:9

2. Marriage Is for Complementation, Not Competition

True marriage is the joining of strengths, not a battle of wills. Each partner brings something unique to the table — vision, wisdom, grace, and gifts — and together they create a balance that reflects the fullness of God’s image.

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” — Amos 3:3

A godly marriage is therefore not about domination or control, but about agreement and unity of purpose. When both partners are aligned with God’s plan, their union becomes a channel for divine expression and influence.

3. Marriage Is for Purpose Fulfilment

Marriage multiplies destiny. When two people unite under God’s leadership, their impact increases — in ministry, in business, in parenting, and in every area of life. It’s not just about raising children, but about raising generations that carry light, legacy, and kingdom purpose.

Staying in marriage only because of children limits God’s vision for the relationship. Children are a blessing, but marriage is first a covenant between two people and their Creator. When the union reflects Christ’s love, the children naturally grow in an atmosphere of stability, faith, and purpose.

4. Marriage Is a Reflection of Christ and the Church

The ultimate goal of marriage is to mirror the relationship between Christ and His Bride, the Church (Ephesians 5:25–32). It is a love built on sacrifice, understanding, forgiveness, and faithfulness. It thrives on commitment, not convenience; on purpose, not pressure.

When marriage is redefined by God’s standard, it ceases to be a struggle and becomes a garden of growth, where both individuals are refined, strengthened, and empowered for kingdom exploits.

In Summary:

Marriage is not just about staying together it’s about growing together.

It’s not about children alone — it’s about purpose and partnership.

It’s not about endurance, it’s about divine collaboration for destiny.

When God is at the center, marriage becomes a force that transforms lives and generations.

“ Marriage is not a prison of obligation but a covenant of divine purpose.”

By Olubunmi (Queen) Olashore – Heartbeat of God Publications

Breaking the Circle: Self-Worth and Value

The Noble Frame — Deborah’s Attributes in a World Where Women Weren’t Recognized

By Olubunmi (aka Queen)

Heartbeat of God Publications

Scriptural Foundation

Judges 4:4, 7–9, 17–21, 23 and Judges 5:6–7 , 5:31b

Introduction

Even in an era when women’s voices were silenced, Deborah stood as light in a dim generation. She ruled with discernment, led with compassion, and judged with righteousness. Her existence was not an act of rebellion — it was a divine revelation that God’s anointing is not limited by gender or social expectation.

Her story is a mirror to every woman living in a world that still struggles to recognize her worth. Deborah’s life teaches that true strength begins with inner clarity — knowing who you are before God. That’s the noble frame — the posture of a woman who walks in divine worth and value even when society doesn’t see her.

1. The Noble Frame: Seeing as God Sees.

Deborah’s greatness began with how she saw herself. She didn’t define herself by her gender or the limits of her culture. She saw herself through God’s eyes  as a vessel of purpose.

When a woman begins to see herself beyond the opinions of others, she begins to live above the ceilings they create.

2. The Deborah Attributes:

a. Wisdom and Discernment : She ruled from the palm tree of Deborah, settling disputes and bringing peace. Her words were seasoned with divine wisdom.

b. Courage and Leadership : When Barak hesitated, she said, “Up! For this is the day.” Her courage inspired a nation. 

And Deborah said unto Barak, Up; for this is the day in which the Lord hath delivered Sisera into thine hand: is not the Lord gone out before thee?”

(Judges 4:14)

c. Faith and Obedience — She trusted that God would go before her. Every noble woman must learn that faith is not passive — it’s active obedience.

d. Nurturing Strength — Deborah called herself “a mother in Israel.” True leadership is nurturing — it births, builds, and restores others.

3. Breaking the Circle of Silence

Every generation faces its own version of Sisera : oppression, fear, societal ceilings. Like Deborah and Jael, women today are called to break the circle — to end the cycles that silence purpose, paralyze vision, and bury identity.

The weapon may not be a tent nail, but wisdom, prayer, skill, and courage — the modern tools of victory. “It is like we are fighting in a war, but we do not use human weapons. Instead we use God’s weapons. Those weapons are powerful enough to destroy the enemy’s strong places. We use those weapons to destroy people’s wrong ideas.” 2 Corinthians‬ ‭10‬:‭4‬ ‭EASY‬‬

4. Restoring Dignity in a Dismissive World

When women rise in righteousness and grace, families heal, and communities prosper. The Deborah mantle still lives in every woman who chooses to lead with humility and strength — a woman of great worth, a covering for her world. “…….. After that, there was peace in Israel for 40 years.” Judges‬ ‭5‬:‭31‬ ‭EASY‬‬

A Call to Reflection

The world still needs Deborahs — women of discernment, courage, and wisdom.

May every woman rediscover her name, her voice, and her noble frame.

For this is the hour when Deborah must rise again not to compete, but to complete. Hallelujah. 

© Olubunmi (aka Queen)

Heartbeat of God Publications